My Advice To Married Couples After Divorcing My Wife Of 16 Years By Gerald Rogers.


My Advice To Married Couples After Divorcing My Wife   Of 16 Years By Gerald Rogers.

Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had

1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there…

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Deep within the love of life…



Moments shared together, Within our hearts and minds

Places that will echo, Love and joy combined.

Warm and sunny mornings, We sat and talked of things

Laughing and enjoying life, What tenderness this brings

In life some chairs are empty, But spirit always dwell

For me you’ll always be there, By stories that I tell.

Friendship warm and gentle, Ties in life that bind

Deep within the love of life, You’re thoughtfully entwined.


‘…Thank you for lending us your wedding rings…’


During a wedding reception somewhere in southern part of Nigeria, the groom was called upon to give his vote of thanks to his guests and this is what he came up with.

“I want to first of all thank the Lord Almighty for creating my wife and to also thank the pastor and his wife for lending us their wedding rings. Special appreciation to my landlord who lent us his car. I am most grateful to my boss for approving the loan I used for the wedding. Big thanks to the committee of friends for the appeal fund they raised on my behalf.

Also to my brother’s wife, thank you for lending us your wedding gown. I’m so grateful to the cake designer for the cake. I promised to return it tomorrow morning as agreed. Special thanks to my friends who brought food from their homes to help me feed you all. Please for those who were served food good luck and for those who didn’t get any, well we will make it up to you during our child dedication ( hopefully next year). Very big thanks to my parents for bringing the village cultural band to supply the music as well as entertain us all here, today.

Not forgetting the church marriage committee, thank you for persuading my wife to marry me. Appreciation to the married men in the church for rushing me into this marriage. The women are not left out, thanks a lot for teaching my wife how to dance. To the youths thank you for sweeping and decorating this venue with palm fronts. I am also grateful to my teenage friends for helping with the Zobo (a locally-brewed drink).

Well, I wish you all safe journey and I pray you don’t experience what I suffered in this wedding.

Thank you!”

When world petroleum production peaks…

When world petroleum production peaks, energy prices will go up dramatically. If and when oil prices start to rise substantially, it will undoubtedly translate into strong commodity based inflation. Ultimately, as the price of oil rises it will cause a severe contraction in the world economy. Most observers of this occurrence agree that this will translate into higher prices all the way down the food chain- literally- right down to bread and fruit- as not only road and air transportation will be affected directly but the price of nearly ever commodity and product consumed in the world economy will be impacted indirectly. Therein lies the beauty of improvisation, as illustrated below. Now, which one of these appeals to you more? Please, let me know!
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Facebook is Bad for You. Get a Life!

Using the social network seems to make people more miserable

Those who have resisted the urge to join Facebook will surely feel vindicated when they read the latest research. A study just published by the Public Library of Science, conducted by Ethan Kross of the University of Michigan and Philippe Verduyn of Leuven University in Belgium, has shown that the more someone uses Facebook, the less satisfied he is with life.

Past investigations have found that using Facebook is associated with jealousy, social tension, isolation and depression. But these studies have all been “cross-sectional”—in other words, snapshots in time. As such, they risk confusing correlation with causation: perhaps those who spend more time on social media are more prone to negative emotions in the first place. The study conducted by Dr Kross and Dr Verduyn is the first to follow Facebook users for an extended period, to track how their emotions change.

The researchers recruited 82 Facebookers for their study. These volunteers, in their late teens or early 20s, agreed to have their Facebook activity observed for two weeks and to report, five times a day, on their state of mind and their direct social contacts (phone calls and meetings in person with other people). These reports were prompted by text messages, sent between 10am and midnight, asking them to complete a short questionnaire.

When the researchers analysed the results, they found that the more a volunteer used Facebook in the period between two questionnaires, the worse he reported feeling the next time he filled in a questionnaire. Volunteers were also asked to rate their satisfaction with life at the start and the end of the study. Those who used Facebook a lot were more likely to report a decline in satisfaction than those who visited the site infrequently. In contrast, there was a positive association between the amount of direct social contact a volunteer had and how positive he felt. In other words, the more volunteers socialised in the real world, the more positive they reported feeling the next time they filled in the questionnaire.

A volunteer’s sex had no influence on these findings; nor did the size of his (or her) social network, his stated motivation for using Facebook, his level of loneliness or depression or his self-esteem. Dr Kross and Dr Verduyn therefore conclude that, rather than enhancing well-being, Facebook undermines it.

Their study does not tease out why socialising on Facebook has a different effect from socialising in person. But an earlier investigation, conducted by social scientists at Humboldt University and Darmstadt’s Technical University, both in Germany, may have found the root cause. These researchers, who presented their findings at a conference in Leipzig in February, surveyed 584 users of Facebook aged mostly in their 20s. They found that the most common emotion aroused by using Facebook is envy. Endlessly comparing themselves with peers who have doctored their photographs, amplified their achievements and plagiarised their bons mots can leave Facebook’s users more than a little green-eyed. Real-life encounters, by contrast, are more WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get).

What neither study proves is whether all this is true only for younger users of Facebook. Older ones may be more mellow, and thus less begrudging of their friends’ successes, counterfeit or real. Maybe. (Culled from

Never Let Go of Your True Self!



There’s one simple reason why you shouldn’t try to be something you’re not, and it’s that you can’t. The real you will come out anyway. It was Steve Jobs who said: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”

A plum once said: ‘Just because a banana lover came by, I converted myself into banana. Unfortunately, his taste changed after a few months and so I became an orange. When he said I was bitter I became an apple, but he went in search of grapes. Yielding to the opinions of so many people, I have changed so many times that I no more know who I am. How I wish I had remained a plum and waited for a plum lover!’

You see just because a group of people do not accept you as you are, there is no necessity for you to strip yourself of your originality. What water can do, gasoline cannot and what copper can, gold cannot. The fragility of the ant enables it to move and the rigidity of the tree enables it to stay rooted. Be the best you can be!

In Steve Tobak’s ‘How to Be the Best Version of You’, he unequivocally pointed out one of the consequences of stripping yourself of your originality. According to him, “You will pay a huge price when you engage in mindless distraction.” That’s certainly true. Look! There’s a business concept called opportunity cost. When you choose one course of action, you miss out on all the other opportunities you might have chosen to pursue but didn’t. People rarely stop to consider that until it’s too late.

You need to think good of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but who we are. You are special. Don’t’ ever forget it. Never let go of your true self to win a relation or gain recognition. In the long run, you will regret that you traded your greatest glory – your uniqueness, for momentary validation.

Don’t Worry About People from Your Past

My Flower

There comes a point in your life when you realize:

Who matters,
Who never did,
Who won’t anymore…
And who always will.
So, don’t worry about people from your past,
There’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future.

Think about people who have made a difference in your life, however small. It could be just a smile from them to cheer you up for the day, a thoughtful and affectionate hug or kiss, or even a listening ear.

You see your job will not take care of you when you’re ill. Your family and friends will.

Learn to say, ‘Thank you!’ and ‘I love you’ to your partner and loved ones, and be true to your words.

Give time to love, give time to speak, give time to share precious thoughts in your minds with these ones. Remember, the love of friendship is unselfish and kind. It is a treasure to find, and it takes constant attention and care.

So, your family, your friends, your employees – all the people that really matter to you. Give them your time and attention. Stay in touch. They’re the ones who deserve this flower. By all means, give this flower to everyone who matters to you!

Life is short. Enjoy it!



If you try to squeeze too many things into the limited hours you have available, you are not living within your means timewise. Such a life-style inevitably leads to frustration, stress and weariness.  Hey, you don’t need all those! Keep your life simple and uncluttered.

According to Wikipedia, stress management refers to the wide spectrum of techniques and psychotherapies aimed at controlling a person’s levels of stress, especially chronic stress usually for the purpose of improving everyday functioning. Many professional organizations exist to promote and provide training in conventional or alternative therapies. There are several models of stress management, each with distinctive explanations of mechanisms for controlling stress.

To be sure, stress and demands on your time will no doubt increase with more responsibilities. Even so, you don’t have to let your stress become chronic. In fact, you can prevent the stress of the burnout from turning into deeper depression or mental illness by employing these simple stress management tips.

Put it down for a while. A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management.
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. If you’re sleeping late; what does that mean? Are you exhausted, or just disengaged?

Do one thing at a time; learn to prioritize. Everyone’s so distracted with social media and all their slash jobs these days, try picking one thing you really want to do and just get it done. Prioritize. It’ll provide a sense of accomplishment and control. You don’t need to know the instant you get an email, or a text, or a tweet, or anything else that pops up on your phone or computer. If something is important enough for you to do, it’s important enough for you to do without interruptions. Focus totally on what you’re doing. Then, on a schedule you set – instead of a schedule you let everyone else set – play prairie dog and pop your head up to see what’s happening.

Just listen. When you need to gain some perspective, resist the urge to seek out more information. Turn off all the sources of communication, all the noise that distracts you. Just be quiet and listen to your own inner thoughts. Don’t judge them; just listen. The answers to life’s most difficult challenges are always there.

So, my friend, why not take a while to just simply relax, prioritize, and just listen? Put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while. Life is short. Enjoy it!